If the reference you used was what you you used for the page linked in your profile, I suggest getting rid of that reference. I have no idea what you where trying to do, but it was far from what you needed. Here's a rework of your code on the first page. I took out the <object> tag for now because I didn't feel like screwing around trying to validate it when the <object> tag isn't something I really know how to work with just yet.
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<title>I Didn't Do it.net</title>
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<link rel="stylesheet" title="Default" media="screen" href="styles.css" type="text/css">
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<h3>what's new...</h3>
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still nothing new -- except for what you're reading -- i was digging around some old e-mails and found this glossary of words that women use and what they mean. i decided to see how accurate it was and compared it to conversations i have with my girlfriend...it's scary how accurate the original author is...<a href="wordswomenuse.htm">Words Women Use</a>
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<a href="qotd.html">Quote of the Day</a> is up and running, I just don't update very often. <a href="mailto:ryan@ididntdoit.net?subject=Quote Submission">Submit Quotes...</a>
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I added streaming media to my server. -- <a href="http://www.ididntdoit.net/radio">listen here</a> -- -- <a href="http://www.ididntdoit.net:8000">see what's playing</a> --
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The Server requires NullSoft's Winamp MP3 player to listen to the music. If you don't have the program installed, you can obtain a copy by <a target="_blank" href="http://www.winamp.com/download/;$sessionid$EWCHJAT55TF5Y5YAAAARCZY">following this link...</a>
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I've heard that RealPlayer will work also but can't make you any guarantees since I haven't tested it, I can't stand that software. My advice? get the <a href="http://www.winamp.com/download/;$sessionid$EWCHJAT55TF5Y5YAAAARCZY">Winamp player</a>
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<em>I have no legal disclaimer only that music is distributed for listening purposes only. Some songs do include lyrics which aren't suitable for young ears. Parental guidance is suggested.</em>
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<h3>Still to come...</h3>
<p>don't really like this layout...ideas?</p>
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Here's the CSS you put in a file named styles.css that's in the same directory as your HTML file is in.
a { color:#0066CC; text-decoration:none; }
a:hover { color:#D9F103; }
body { background-color:#FF9933; }
em { text-decoration:underline; }
#header { text-align:center; }
#menu { text-align:center; }