A question as old as time, I know I've spent years on it myself.
I'm tricking browsers right now by adding a content type of attachment to my mp3 headers. This as you know opens up the Windows dialog asking if you want to open or save this file. Opening of course plays it.
I'd like something slicker, something where I'm not relying on a browser trick, something where 'play' is one link and 'download' is another....
Any thoughts or recommendations are appreciated. I've searched and searched but only find client side suggestions for the best media players and such.